My cousin is my matron of honor. I will have her and two junior bridesmaids (nieces). My fiancé will have only a best man. My cousin lives in California, and I am in Texas. She has not been very supportive since the beginning of the planning. Last time we talked she told how funny it would be if I gained too much weight to fit in my dress and that she was much thinner than me on my wedding day. I have been trying for weeks to get her to call in her measurements for the dress. I even paid for the dress. All she would have to do is call in for the size. The dresses take three to four months to get in and with alterations we are cutting it short. Well I found out from my Grandmother that her husband would be going back to Iraqi in July (the same month as the wedding). I know she is devastated. Now there is a chance she will not come to the wedding at all. I have a friend that I can ask to be replace her. I just need to order the dress very soon. I just don’t know what to do about my cousin. I cannot call her and talk about the wedding or the dress because it is understandably not as important. I just need to decide something so that I have an attendant. What do I do? She might still be able to come to the wedding but she needs to order the dress now.
If it were me, I would write her a heartfelt letter. Let her know you care about her situation and that you're willing to be supportive but that if she cannot call her measurements in by (select a deadline) you will have to replace her. It may also be good to contact your grandmother and ask her advice.
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