My best friend decided to have a Maid of Honor and a Matron of Honor. I am the Maid of Honor and have known her for over 16 years. Her other friend has known her for about 9-10 years. We have always talked about me being the Maid of Honor and there is no one in the world that I would care as much about being a part of her day. My concern is that she has not said anything to me about who is really the "Chief" bridesmaid, or who will be standing next to her... The Matron has started planning things and has not really tried to talk to me about anything. I am not sure how to approach my friend.. it seems really petty when I think about it too much. When you have both a Maid and a Matron who stands next to you and is the "Chief"? Any insight would be greatly appreciated!!!
Traditionally the older of the two would stand beside the bride. She may also make a different selection if there is a size difference and the placement would asthetically affect the photographs. I think it's a great time to have a dialog with both the bride to be and the Matron of Honor to set up a priority list and delegate things to do. If this isn't done, you'll continue to dwell on this and it will affect the pleasure you should be feeling about this. Nancy Tucker President of Weddings Beautiful US http://www.weddingsbeautiful.com