My matron of honor is three months pregnant and recently told me that she may be unable to attend my wedding (which is in three weeks) because she "doesn't want to ruin my big day by being sick" and is also afraid that she won't be able to handle traveling the distance to be here. She lives 1500 miles away! I completely understand where she is coming from because I had a baby a year ago and had morning sickness for 6 months. I'm a little hurt though because I have been planning my wedding for two years and this is a planned pregnancy for her (as she told me in November that her and her husband were going to try for a baby in January, knowing that my wedding was in April). Do you have any advice on what I should do with only three weeks away from my wedding? The programs are already printed, should I ask another bridesmaid to fill in? Should I wait until the last minute and hope that her morning sickness goes away? I am pretty devastated, especially since my father is unable to come to my wedding as well, and really want the people that mean to most to me there. Is there anything I can say to my matron of honor to convince her that she should try to make the trip??? Thanks for any help!
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As you know, since you've already had a child, there's no way to predict if pregnancy will occur quickly or how one might feel after becoming pregnant.
If this person is really a good friend, and you want to keep it that way, be happy for her and just hope she can make it. If she can't, there is no reason to replace her. Just go on with your day. The wedding is about you and your groom committing to one another (kudos on that for you and the child) and that should be your focus. Get together later with your friend and watch the wedding video or look at photos. Just be a supportive friend. I'll bet you had a few of those when you became pregnant. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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