Originally, I planned to have just a maid of honor at my wedding. She backed out two weeks ago. The wedding is now 3 weeks away. I've decided not to ask my sister to fill her place since I am really not close with her. I've decided not to have a maid of honour or any wedding attendents. How can I go about having doing this? My husband to be would still like his best man to participate. Will it look odd that I have no one beside me? Can the best man stand for both of us? Who would hold my flowers; the best man?! Any advice on how to deal with this kind of scenerio would be appreciated.
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Re: [Brunette] No Wedding Attendents or Maid of Honor
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Dear No Honor Attendant,
There is no law that says that you must have one. But, it would make things easier for you to. It may look unbalanced to your guests not to have one. Do you have a good friend that is male? A man can stand in. Also, at this point, even a teen could hold your flowers and stand with you. You won't need an honor attendant who attends to the typical duties, just one to stand with you.
This is a stretch and not something that I would suggest normally. But, you are sort of stuck with no one at your side. So, perhaps the best man can stand in his normal position. He could hold both sets of rings. He would hand the groom's ring to your groom at the appropriate time. Your groom hands it to you for you to place it on his finger.
Your groom would have to hold your flowers while you do this. This is the only sticky part.
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You will need two witnesses though. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Aug 3, 2005, 12:03 AM
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Thanks Rebecca for your feedback.
Yes, I have some female friends who can stand beside me. I never thought of that as an option. How exactly could I make this work? Do they need to walk down the aisle during the processional? Do I need to get her flowers to hold as well? How do I recognize them in the ceremony program?
I am really down and upset that my good friend of 15 years backed out just weeks before my big day. I think there is a lot more to it than the dress, but I'm not going to push it.
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If they could dress as your bridesmaids or honor attendants, that would be best. I'm not sure how formal your wedding is. For very informal weddings the bridesmaids can simply wear nice dresses. But, typically they are dressed in the usual bridesmaids dresses. So, this is a concern.
They would have flowers. But, again these could be small and not too expensive. I was attending a wedding recently where the bridesmaids simply held a single rose. It was very sweet.
If these ladies will be standing in as bridesmaids or both as honor attendants they should be addressed as such in your program.
They would walk in the procession before you. They could walk together or separately. It is your choice.
I'm sorry that your friend backed out. Hopefully you two can mend this fence.
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