I was wondering if you could please give me some advise, as this is a delicate issue!
When I got engaged I asked a good friend of mine along with my FSIL to be my bridesmaid. My good friend said that she would say yes but was trying to get pregnant so it might change to a no. As luck would have it for her she got pregnant very quickly and by the time we looked at bridesmaid dresses she said 'no' because she would be 8months along by the time of our wedding. This was fine as she has helped me with many other aspects of the wedding such as ideas and invite wording etc and I asked her to do a reading at the ceremony.
When I have recently been talking with her about the wedding she has given me the impression that she is still expecting all of the 'perks' of being a bridesmaid like coming to my house on the morning of the wedding and having her hair and make up done along with the gift I am giving my 2 other bridesmaids - paid for by me obviously. This is something I would have been fine with, had she been a bridesmaid but now seems a little odd to expect given she said no to being a bridesmaid. Also on a practical level she will not be going to the church with us in the limo etc or being in the pre wedding photos of the bridesmaid and my mum and dad.
Am I being oversensitive to the issue or is there a way I can bring up with her that she isn’t really invited on the morning of the wedding?
Can you please help as I don’t want to ruin the friendship but I don’t really want her there on the morning of the wedding
AlyKat
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Jan 24, 2008, 8:35 AM
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If she is doing all of the bridesmaids duties, just not actually buying a dress and walking down the aisle, I would just allow her the honor of spending the morning of the wedding with you and enjoying those festivities. I don't see the harm. You'll have to decide if doing so is worth the friendship. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Jan 24, 2008, 12:25 PM
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I couldn't agree more. Great advice. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
Now Pregnant Bridesmaid Issue.
