Hello. Several years ago I served as maid of honor for my great friend, whom I grew up with and roomed with in college. She married right out of college, moved away, had children and leads her own happy life. Six years later, I'm planning my own wedding. The problem is, we have really lost touch over the years and except for an occasional phone call and email, do not really talk that much. I have made wonderful new friends over these years whom I would prefer serve as bridesmaids.
It has always seemed to me that bridesmaids should be your absolute best friends, the ones who understand you....and she really doesn't anymore, though there have never been any hard feelings.
I suppose what I'm asking is do you think it's awfully rude or would it be hurtful to her if I do not ask her to be a bridesmaid when I served long ago as her maid of honor?
Thank you so much.
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Jul 19, 2005, 4:51 PM
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Re: [Ivy] Once her bridesmaid, now must she be mine?
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Dear Ivy:
You should select the women closest to you now. Just because you served as this woman's maid of honor 6 years ago doesn't mean you have to choose her to be your maid of honor, let alone even invite her as a guest if the two of you aren't really friendly anymore.
Many of us grow away from our childhood and college friends. If these people are no longer part of your life they will probably not feel comfortable as a part of your wedding party now.
Don't feel compelled to ask an old friend to be a part of your wedding if the two of you have parted ways. Just send her an announcement or an invitation to come as a guest. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Once her bridesmaid, now must she be mine?
