I am the MOH for my best friend's wedding. I graciously asked another bridesmaid, who is also a best friend, to help with the planning & expenses of various parties. We have been emailing & calling back & forth trying to plan the bridal shower & bachelorette parties. Because I am the MOH, she keeps saying I get the final say for everything but everytime I have a new idea or suggestion, she shoots it down & comes up with something to replace it. Almost everything she suggests is way more expensive than what we need to spend on it. It is getting to the point where I am just agreeing with everything she says to avoid the hassle. Or buying things & telling her this is what I bought, so this is what we should use. Is it rude or bad etiquette to remind her I get the final say? How should I tell her she isn't being fair?
Perhaps it would be best to just inform her that you two need to be on the same page in order to help your friend and to be able to do this, one person should be steering the boat. But, this shouldn't come down to a power struggle. No one wins. Both of you would need to be in agreement on a spending limit on all parties. So, that might be where you begin and work from there.
Please remember that all prewedding parties are optional, so everything you do should be because you want to do it.
Overwhelming bridesmaid
