When I got engaged I picked a good friend to be my maid of honor who at the time seemed very excited for me and wanted to be very involved etc. Not to long after that she seemed to lose interest and flaked on several things involving the wedding (picking my dress and bridesmaids dresses), things I had wanted her there for. As of recently I hadn't talked to here for 2-1/2 months. In the mean time I had become very close with a new friend who has been with me every step of the way and willing to help me in anyway possibly. I would like her to be my Maid of Honor I belived she has earned that title. How do I tell my other friend that I want her in the wedding but not as my MOH without pissing her off?
I'm sorry. There is no polite manner in which to tell someone that they have been replaced. You could add this person as another honor attendant. This would be the most polite alternative.
I am going through the same thing. I am at my witts end w/ my MOH and if things don't change in a week I am going to ask her to step down. Mine only works 2 days a week and in the 8 months I have been planning my wedding she has done NOTHING. Just tell her that you need someone you can count on to do the MOH duties and you would like her to be just a bridesmaid. If it hurts her feelings I say; she should have been more responsible before it came down to this. I know it'll be hard but I wish you luck w/ your wedding and all the decisions you make
As always, it is best to keep an open line of communication 'open' through the entire process. Let these ladies know what you expect of them. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
PICKED WRONG MOH
