Any suggestions on dealing with this situation? My sister, the bride, thinks I'm conspiring to ruin her wedding by trying to get pregnant. She's my younger sister. This would be my first child. She thinks I'm overshadowing her, and trying to ruin everything. It's frustrating for both sides, and I don't know how to get her to understand that we both can accomplish major milestones this year without ruining each other's "spotight". Any suggestions on dealing with her?
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It is unfortunate that she feels this way. It seems as if this would just be a better year for everyone.
Logically though, it may be best to plan for your baby to be born after the wedding. If you have a new born, it may be difficult to play your part that day. This may make your sister happy too.
The baby won't be born until after the wedding. She's mad that I'm trying to get pregnant, and I think she doesn't want me to be anywhere near her spotlight... i've even volunteered to step down, but it doesn't seem like anything will please her unless i say, ok your 1 day of a wedding is worth me waiting another year to get pregnant. it's so frustrating!
I'm so sorry! This sounds like another edition of Bridezilla. Perhaps a family member can intervene. Expecting you to wait is not nice. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
Go ahead and begin your process. She doesn't have to know. If it happens before the wedding - well - things happen. Let life take it's course. A pregnant bridesmaid will not hamper the wedding plans at all. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
I don't see what war can be made. You're doing nothing to stop her wedding or to steal her thunder. Chances are it will be months before you actually get pregnant and then months before you even begin to show. At that point the wedding could be over. Besides, you offered to step down and she declined. You've done everything perfectly. Your sister needs to stop being so selfish. A wedding isn't just about the bride or even the couple. If it were, then they would not invite any guests. The entire wedding takes place so that all loved ones can witness the pair make their vows to one another...not to highlight or show off the bride.
As Rebecca said, you shouldn't have to plan your life around your sisters wedding. As long as you can uphold your bridesmaid's duties you're good to go. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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