Help! I am due to get married in 11 weeks and have just found out one of my two bridesmaids is pregnant (possibly 4-5 months). I already have the outfits (tight black numbers).
Whilst I am so very happy for her, I can't help feeling slightly gutted! Selfish I know!!
It is highly unlikley that we can get the outfit taken out and so I find myself in a dilemma. I am considering asking her to take a different role, walking my flower girl and page boy (nephew and niece) down the aisle and I shall buy another more comformatable, appropriate outfit for her.
I had always wanted to ask another friend to be bridesmaid but at the last moment decided not to for financial purposes, but now I would like to ask her.
Can I ask my pregnant bridesmaid to take on a different less taxing role (walking down aisle still and signing register) and then ask my friend to be a bridesmiad without her feeling like a replacement?
I have already said to my other friend a while back that I would have chosen her if I had the finances to have had 3 adult bridesmaids!
It wouldn't be polite to ask her to step down based on her pregnancy. She is responsible for the cost of her gown. So, if she cannot afford a new gown or alterations, it is her choice to step down or no.
If it is the time involved with the alterations, asking your other friend to step in at such a late date would be a problem also. It doesn't leave much time to buy the gown and have it altered.
I agree with Rebecca. Let the pregnant woman make the decision. I can't see anything good coming from asking another friend to step in as a replacement. The new bridesmaid would obviously know she was second choice. Plus, I don't really understand what/why you said to her about affording to have three adult bridesmaids since there is no expense to you besides maybe a bridal party gift. I would just leave the spot open if the pregnant bridesmaid decides to step down. There is no reason to replace her. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
I have paid for the outfits myself (£180 each from Caost) and the outfits are slinky black outfits. Having just one bridesmaid in black would look odd and am concerned about getting the outfit taken out as the corset is boned. Moral dilemma!
I have paid for the outfits myself (£180 each from Caost) and the outfits are slinky black outfits. Having just one bridesmaid in black would look odd and am concerned about getting the outfit taken out as the corset is boned. Moral dilemma!
Paying for the dresses was generous. Perhaps you could let your friend know that you can't afford to buy another dress. Perhaps she will pay for some sort of alteration that would suit her and you.
Pregnant bridesmaid
