My brother is getting married and his fiancee asked me and my two sisters to be her bridesmaids (along with one friend). Initially the wedding was set for next June. Last week we found out (not from her!) that the wedding had been moved up to this December. My older sister is 50/50 on whether she can make it now. When my brother's fiancee found out she called and removed her from the wedding party because she might not be able to attend pre-wedding events like showers, etc, but said she hoped she could still make the wedding (as a guest). Is it wrong for my other sister and I to remove ourselves in solidarity with my sister, who was really upset at being kicked out of the wedding party? (FYI: My sisters and I cannot stand my brother's fiancee and only agreed to be in the wedding party as a favor to our brother - the girl is an only child and has only one friend. She hasn't spoken to us since asking us months ago to be bridesmaids.)
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Jul 6, 2007, 1:46 PM
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Re: [soxfan] Removing yourself from bridal party?
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Dear Soxfan,
Wow, that was the reason for being removed? She wasn't able to attend gift giving events. Jeez. There isn't enough chocolate in the world to make me feel better about this one.
Usually, it would not be polite to decline after giving your word, especially since she didn't do anything directly to you (difficult to write). She did toss your sister aside for basically a greedy reason. But, more importantly, she changed the date. When she changed one of the main elements of the wedding, all bets are off. It is like the contract being rewritten. So, you can do whatever you wish.
I sincerely hope she realizes that all pre-wedding parties are optional. No one, and this includes the attendants, is responsible for hosting one. So, she just may not have any pre-wedding parties, which makes dumping your sister even more bizarre.
Re: [soxfan] Removing yourself from bridal party?
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What I am wondering is where is the brother? It seems to me that he should be the one getting involved here. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Removing yourself from bridal party?
