Should I ask friend who intorduced me to fiance to be bridesmaid?
My fiance and I met at a mutual friend's wedding, let's call her "Katie". Katie is a high school friend of my fiance from and I was her college roommate freshman year. We have remained good telephone friends, but I wouldn't consider her one of our best friends. I think she expects to be in the wedding, but I'm not comfortable having her up there with me. My fiance had a "crush" on her for YEARS and has been over it for years, but I'd rather not have her as bridesmaid. Katie has always been the type of friend to tell me I am her best friend, and I know she is nothing but happy for us, but I just don't know what to do.
I know she will be hurt when she is not asked, but I have my own sister as my MOH, 2 best girl friends and my 2 future sister in laws. That's plenty for me! Is it appropriate to ask her to do a reading or put something in the program honouring our "special friend"? Or is that a slap in the face?
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You're a good friend, and person, to be so worried about this woman's feelings. Bless you. But, you know, you're not obligated to ask anyone to be a member of the bridal party. If you would like to include her by asking her to perform a reading, I think that would be nice and she should be honored. But, only you know this woman and how she might react.
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