Should bride reimburse bridesmaids when she cancelled wedding
Is there anything stated in etiquette standards about reimbursing a maid of honor/bridesmaids for expenses she incurred for a wedding that ended up being cancelled? I ask because I was to be the maid of honor in my best friend's wedding in just 4 weeks. I went this past weekend to get my dress altered and purchased my accessories for the wedding. (Thankfully the MOB paid for the dress.) I had to pay for the alterations up front on Saturday. On Sunday, the bride called to tell me that the wedding has been postponed indefinitely, and to see if I could get my money back on the things I'd purchased. I was only able to get store credit for the shoes and purse I bought, and was unable to get anything back for the dress, and they'd already started the alterations. I have now lost $200+ because of the cancellation of this wedding. While I am upset for the bride, (of course - she is my best friend), I am also a little upset about this loss money, as I can't afford to be throwing that kind of money away on a dress that will never get worn. While I would never approach the bride about getting reimbursed for these expenses, I have had people telling me she should at least offer to pay me back. Is this something that should happen when a wedding is cancelled? Thank you for your help.
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Re: [samdrake] Should bride reimburse bridesmaids when she cancelled wedding
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Dear Cancelled Wedding Blues,
No, the bride isn't responsible for reimbursing her attendants. It is unfortunate that this happened, but it is one of those things that we agree to when agreeing to be an attendant. There is always that chance that the wedding may never occur.
The reasoning behind her not being obligated is that you would be paying for your dress anyway whether or not the wedding takes place. Hopefully when she is feeling better, she will do something nice for all of you.
Should bride reimburse bridesmaids when she cancelled wedding
