Out of 5 bridesmaids, 2 live near me, 2 live in other states and one lives in a different country. I'm closer to the three that live far away and would love to pick one of them to be my MOH, but I'm not sure that it would be appropriate. They wouldn't be able to help me plan much because they wouldn't be around. They also would have a hard time planning a wedding shower, bachelorette party, and any other events like that. The two girls that live near me I've known since elementary school, one (W) since 2nd grade and one (C) since 5th. W was my best friend up until junior year of high school, but we've remained good friends. C I recently reconnected with last year but got in a fight with a few months ago. We've made up since then, but that fight has turned me off to having her my MOH. I just don't know who to pick! Should I pick one of the local girls just because she's conveniently located? Or is distance not the big of a problem?
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Nancy Tucker
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Nov 30, 2006, 7:53 PM
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Your bridesmaid selection seems to have been made out of obligation. Unfortunately, this is what many brides fall into and the real guideline should be someone very close to you. Your choice between the 3 out of the area may not be any easier than the two who are local. My suggestion would be to make one of the locals a maid/matron of honor and one of the out of town to serve also as an honorary. The local should know that the honorary will not be able to participate in all of the activities in person, however, she will be able to assist via email and phone collaboration. Nancy Tucker President of Weddings Beautiful US http://www.weddingsbeautiful.com
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Dec 1, 2006, 10:14 AM
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I completely agree. Plus, please keep in mind that the parties you mentioned are optional and not necessarily mandatory for your attendants to host. Even those in town may not want to host them. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
nluvwithamarine
Dec 1, 2006, 10:19 AM
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I know that everyone involved wants a bachelorette party. I spent the day with C yesterday and she said that she wanted to plan one, without knowing if she was even a bridesmaid yet. But that is true, wedding showers and such aren't necessary.
Thanks for the advice. I think I will have two MOH's. =)
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Dec 1, 2006, 10:24 AM
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Great. Then it is all good. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
Should distance matter when picking MOH?
