Shouldn't the bride have asked me to be a bridesmaid
I have a friend whom I've know 2 - 3 years, we see each other maybe twice a year. She is having her first wedding, his second. She called me a while back & told me they had set a date & not to plan anything that weekend. She called me aprox. two weeks ago & told me where to get my dress, that I was her maid of honor. First of all should that be something she asks if I would like to do, or is it customary to just "assign" someone? I have just recently went through a very sudden and by no means anticipated divorce & just don't think I can stand in a wedding. I hate to upset her, but I don't think it would be fair to her when they say til death do us part & I loose it & run out of the room, or do a 1/2 a$$ job on the bachlorette party because I am just "not into it". Besides the fact that the divorce has put me in a little bit of a money crunch, I really don't think I can afford it as well. Am I being unreasonable?
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Re: [tamduck] Shouldn't the bride have asked me to be a bridesmaid
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The bride certainly should have asked. There are many financial responsibilities that go along with being a bridesmaid or matron of honor (your title would be matron since you have been married). Typically the bride will ask her closest friend or relative. Maybe she doesn't have anyone else in her life? But, that shouldn't obligate you to do something you cannot afford to do, both financially and emotionally.
Call your friend and tell her gently that you're flattered but cannot possibly accept this role. She should understand considering the circumstances.
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Shouldn't the bride have asked me to be a bridesmaid
