My fiancee has three sisters who are range from 2 to 8 years younger than us. Before we were engaged I felt as if the three of them were my own sisters. We had a very close relationship and got along very well. For the year that we have been engaged, they have treated me as if I were the "evil step sister". They accuse me of being a "snotty princess" and are openly rude to me. I have tried to make an effort with them and they still are not responding well. They didn't speak to me all Christmas day because they didn't like what I got them as gifts! I have been to their house at least 3 times a week for the past month and not one of them has said so much as hello to me when they answer the door. I have spoken to my fiancee about not feeling comfortable asking them to be bridesmaids in our wedding. As much as I think this bothered him, he said he understood why I would feel this way. He has tried talking to them about the way they treat me and they have yelled back "I don't want to be in your stupid wedding anyway!" I am seeing that as reason enough to not ask them. We have decided that we are only asking my sister and one of his very good friends to be our MOH and Best man. Is not asking them very wrong of us?
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Have you considered speaking to them about why they are feeling this way toward you all of a sudden. perhaps, before you burn your bridges, you can have a calm, meaningful discussion with them to find out what's going on with them or you can ask your groom to so this for you. There could be a very good reason they are acting this weay and it's better to get it out in the open and resolve it than cause more angry feelings of resentment. After all, you are going to be family soon and there will be many years of sitting across the Thanksgiving day table and other family events you will be sharing. Not to mention the fact that your children and theirs will be cousins.
Give this some thought before you go full steam ahead!
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Sister -in-laws to be
My fiancee has three sisters who are range from 2 to 8 years younger than us. Before we were engaged I felt as if the three of them were my own sisters. We had a very close relationship and got along very well. For the year that we have been engaged, they have treated me as if I were the "evil step sister". They accuse me of being a "snotty princess" and are openly rude to me. I have tried to make an effort with them and they still are not responding well. They didn't speak to me all Christmas day because they didn't like what I got them as gifts! I have been to their house at least 3 times a week for the past month and not one of them has said so much as hello to me when they answer the door. I have spoken to my fiancee about not feeling comfortable asking them to be bridesmaids in our wedding. As much as I think this bothered him, he said he understood why I would feel this way. He has tried talking to them about the way they treat me and they have yelled back "I don't want to be in your stupid wedding anyway!" I am seeing that as reason enough to not ask them. We have decided that we are only asking my sister and one of his very good friends to be our MOH and Best man. Is not asking them very wrong of us? 
