Hi all - looking for some etiquette advice for 5 bridesmaids that are trying to figure out how to deal with the 2 MOH who also happen to be the bride's sisters.
Last year as we started planning the 2 MOH included us in coming up with a theme, decoration & location ideas, etc. for the shower. Now, as the event approaches, they have purchased invitations (without asking any of us for input) and sent them specifically stating that they are the hosts (they use their names, not Bridal Party or MOH).
No one has discussed what role the bridesmaids (or their pocketbooks) will play other than the MOH telling us "you can help with decorations closer to the event", but even that is pretty ambiguous and it appears that different bridesmaids had different expectations to start with, so some of us are upset about this sudden move (as they thought it would be hosted by the bridal party) and some didn’t really see themselves playing a large part in the event to start with, so aren't as upset.
The oldest MOH is taking charge as the other MOH is in college, so we’ve toyed around with the idea of calling and talking to her about what she specifically sees the 5 bridesmaids doing for the shower, but she’s very dramatic and we’re kind of afraid she’ll call the bride and complain about us,but that seems like the most logical course of action.
Any suggestions!?!
Thanks A Bunch, 5 Old Maids :)
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Re: Sister MOH Taking Over Bridal Shower
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Dear 5 Old Maids,
Love the name :)
It is best to contact her and inform her that in order to be able to contribute time and/or funds, all of you would need to know about all of the planning. If she comes back to you with the dreaded and obscene mega shower scenario, you could direct her here or to any etiquette book. None of you are obligated to pay for anything that you didn't plan. She would be left holding the empty bag.
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I love the name too! But, older can many times mean wiser. So, feel free to impart your wisdom in a polite fashion. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Sister MOH Taking Over Bridal Shower
