Title for brother in wedding party escourting the bride
I have decided on my 4 bridesmaids but my sister-in law isn't one of them. I don't feel close enough to her to have as a Bridesmaid. She and I have talked about it and she understands completely. I want to have her involved and I have an idea of what I want her to do but I don't know what title to give her.
My brother (husband to previously mentioned sister-in law) is deployed to Iraq and is trying to get leave for the wedding. If he can make it home in time, he is going to walk me to the aisle (outdoor wedding in a park) and hand me off to my father. Would it be all right to have my brother and sister-in law meet at the aisle and walk down ahead of my father and I? If so, what kind of a title could I give to them? I know they are escorting me in a way but I don't really like the sound of "escort" for them.
Worst case scenario, if my brother can't come home for the wedding, is it all right to have my sister-in law walk me to the aisle with some sort of mention of my brother not being able to make it?
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Dear Nikkedge,
While there is no 'rule' against another couple proceeding you down the aisle, it could be confusing. It could appear as if this is a double wedding. Then when they sit, guests may wonder what is going on even if there is a program. They would have to walk with you and the four of you walking together could be a bit strange too.
So, it may be best to just choose who you wish to escort you. Your brother and father could or your sister in law could. Why not ask your brother and father to escort you since they are closer to you and this is considered an honor. Your sister in law could have a different part to play, such as a reading or handing out programs. If you are having a reception, she could be your MC informing guests of what will happen next.
I don't know of any other title besides escort for your escort. The title really doesn't matter much.
I also don't know of how you could inform guests that your brother would be walking you but he is deployed. Many will include a note in their programs, such as: "A rose has been placed in the front row in honor of my brother, Ian, who is currently deployed in Iraq."
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I'm also a little confused - I understand wanting to honor the importance of your brother, but the couple walking just in front of you would quite certainly be confusing. I, too, would suggest choosing one escort, and giving your brother and sister-in-law another special and meaningful role in your wedding. They could give a reading together (one taking over where the other left off) - or, if you are simply trying to include your sister-in-law out of respect for your brother, don't stress quite so much. She is certain to already feel honored that you are thinking of her so considerately. If you need a greeter or program attendant, she sounds like a perfect candidate. And in the event that your brother can not make it, she could give the reading on his behalf. Sometimes simple is better...and the people you love won't miss the fact that you care. Shayna Walker, Williamsburg Wedding Design http://www.williamsburgweddingdesign.com
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I understand the confusing bit but I was planning on them walking down together, just like the bridesmaids and groomsmen, not literally right in front of us. I guess I worded that one a little strangely. Its a small wedding so I am not afraid of confusing people. They all know us and they know that my brother and sister-in law are already married.
I just wanted to give them an important role and some sort of title to be printed in the "program".
Thanks for your help.
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First off...I absolutely love the rose idea for my brother if he can't make it! Thank you!
As for a different role for my sister-in law, I didn't like it at first but we talked and she said that she will do anything that I want her to do, even if it is handing out programs. I think that your idea of a special reading would be the best. Now I just have to come up with something for her to read!
We aren't having your traditional religious wedding. My fiance isn't that type. I on the other hand am, but am willing to omit any big "godly" things from the ceremony. We have agreed that it can be spiritual, just not overly religious. Without bible passages and prayers I don't know what to have her read. I guess I need to hop to it and find something.
Thanks a million for your help!
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