Major dilemma! My best friend and I sort of grew apart in the past couple of years but when I got engaged I asked her to be in my wedding. This was last October. She said yes and things seemed great. In January I got sick and was hospitalized for 9 days. I came home, relapsed and was back in the hospital the end of February for another 3 days. March was spent getting myself well again. Not once during those 3 months did she contact me. She knew I was in the hospital, had to drop my college course and was having a very hard time. It's now July and we still haven't spoken. Yes, I haven't contacted her because I'm feeling very hurt but she has made no effort to contact me either. Do I assume she's not wanting to be in my wedding? Do I call her and tell her she's no longer in it? HELP!
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Jul 9, 2005, 4:54 PM
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Re: [soontobemrsp] UNasking a bridesmaid
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Dear Hurt,
Everyone has their own 'life stuff' happening in their lives. So, it is difficult to know what she is feeling or what she has been going through. No one can know this but her. Plus, no one can make this decision but you.
If you want her to be in your life, it is best to talk to her. Actually, it may help you with your hurt feelings to talk to her. You may want to do this sooner rather than later.
It really is not polite to un-ask a person. This is done occasionally when there is a problem that cannot be worked through, but it is never easy.
UNasking a bridesmaid
