A few of my bridesmaids dont seem to be very interested in my wedding. They wanted to be Bridesmaids and i chose them leaving out other people who also wanted to be a bridesmaid.
Problem is now they don't seem that interested in it. We went to get the dresses and they ordered them , three of them only putting down the minimum down payment (i have 6 total). The dresses came in and the Bridal shop told them they had two weeks to pay off their dresses and pick them up, they never went to get them despite knowing for four months when they would be here.
The Bridal shop said if they wern't picked up she was sending them back. These girls told me they still wanted to be in the wedding, but couldn't get there to pick the dresses up by the deadline and didnt get paid until after the deadline. In order to keep the dresses my mom went and got them and paid them out.
Now i have the dresses and they owe my mom the money, but it has been a month and they still wont pay her back. Everytime i ask them to take care of this they tell me they don't have the money. It wasn't easy for my mom to come up with the extra money to pay them out either.
My maid of honors dress is at a different Bridal store and it's already in and has to be paid out within a month and she hasn't even paid for half of it yet. I asked her if she still wanted to be in the wedding and she said yes, but she isn't making an effort to get her dress out, or purchase her shoes.
We're having a Bridal party cookout this weekend and one of the bridesmaids says she can't come, even though it has been planned over a month ,and I picked the date for the cookout around HER schedule! I suspect it's because of the money she owes.
They all have jobs and seem to have money for everything else. The wedding is in September. What do i do?
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edited by Bride12345 on Jun 4, 2007, 12:24 PM)
You'll have to get them to commit immediately. Tell them if they want to be in the wedding that you will need to have them show good faith by paying in full for the dresses and getting all of the accessories needed. If they cannot do this by (insert date) that you will unfortunately have to count them out of the wedding. If they come through, great. If they don't, try to sell their dresses on Ebay and move on. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Thanks for the advice. Now let me ask this. What is a reasonable amount of time to give them to come up with the money?
We special ordered the dresses in December and they arrived in April. I have had posession of them since the third week in April.
Also what happens about the down payments they made to the bridal shop? Am i responsible to give them back since the bridal shop obviously will not and i have posession of the dresses? Or did they just loose the money because they refused to go pick them up?
And if they opt out...what will i do with the extra groomsmen?
Since the wedding is in September, just 3 months away, I would give them 2 weeks weeks to make a decision and to be woman enough to come to you to discuss. Let them know that their depost is not refundable (check the contract they signed with the bridal shop to make sure they agreed to this). If they don't come forward, and they haven't thus far, I assume they are either very immature or not good friends. In either instance, you cannot be made to wait around wondering.
Wait to see who snaps into place before deciding on the groomsmen. It's really fine to have them walk alone. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Uninterested Bridesmaids
