4 months after I got engaged, my MOH and I went to look at dresses. Upon our arrival in the store, MOH said that we were both newly engaged (she's not), that my wedding was a year and some from that day and that hers was about 6 months away (Because her and her bf had briefly discussed it since our engagement. This is someone who was telling me she would get engaged any day for two years) So the sales lady ignored me, since her "wedding" was way before mine, while MOH tried on 20 dresses and I stood there for hours. MOH never fessed up for her imaginary engagement and it was a wasted afternoon for me.
I know this sounds like a petty thing, but should I assume that she will act this self-absorbed and un-supportive throughout the whole process? Her and I have talked about this at great length, but I feel as though she is still justifying her actions and somehow has burst my bubble. We have since gone back shopping (5 months later, once she actually was engaged)and have both bought our dresses. Having trouble shaking this off.
Am I looking too much into this? My fiance thinks she messed up and I should just forgive her and move on.
Would appreciate your thoughts as the ones around me are mixed.
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edited by oodles_jd on May 20, 2007, 3:27 AM)
If she's not really engaged then I think she has a problem, seriously.
Even if she was engaged, she was attending this shopping day with you as your maid of honor and should not have shifted the focus to her. You need to address this with her.
If you're having second thoughts please talk to her now. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
I see that you edited your post since my response. So, my initial response probably isn't totally appropriate. It's best if you give us all of the information in the first post so that we can give the best advice.
From your post I get the feeling that maybe that first shopping trip was more informal and possibly she understood it to be a sort of preliminary shopping trip and not a serious one where you intended to select your wedding dress and she was to select her bridesmaid dress. Since you've already spoken with her there isn't much left to do. If this has been the only issue with her I'd let it slide and move on.
If you care to add any information please reply, don't edit the original post as the rest of the posts won;t make sense.
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Unsupportive MOH
