Was just asked to be Maid of Honor & she is expecting the favor to be returned, but I always told myself that my other best friend would be my MOH?
My 2 best friends, Kim & Jackie just got engaged on the same day! Those two girls, our other friend, Danielle, and myself have been best friends since we were in grade school. We are all 25 now and are in serious relationships. Danielle and I are not yet engaged to our boyfriends, but we know it is coming in the near future. Though we consider the 4 of us to be the closest, the two girls that just got engaged have always had more things in common; Danielle and I, likewise. Though it was never said, the thought I'm sure all of us had was Kim would be Jackie's MOH and Danielle would be my MOH. However, Jackie recently asked me to be her MOH! Of course I accepted and was thrilled. She said that it was hard to chose just 1 girl between the 3 of us, but thought that it would be nice to honor me because I'm an only child and Danielle will more than likely have her sister (if she didn't have one, I would be standing as her MOH). Jackie is in the same situation as me because she does not have any sisters, and Kim asked her sister to be her MOH. So in the moment that she asked me, I said, "oh that would be neat to have you as mine when I get married, then we would be each others." Thinking about it later, I was troubled because I always knew that Danielle would stand for me. We've been through every phase of our lives together and I would feel like something isn't right if I didn't have her acknowledged in that way. Even though I'm not engaged now, I feel Jackie will be hurt if I don't ask her to be mine. I would love to have her, but if I don't put Danielle as it, I know I'll feel like something's missing. And in the back of my head, I do feel that Jackie would probably have Kim as her MOH if it wasn't for the fact that they're getting married around the same time. As you can see, this situation is upsetting to me and I want to do the right thing. I was thinking that maybe I could have 2. Having Danielle as maid of honor and Jackie as Matron of Honor. I really like that idea, but I think too much into things. Do you think Jackie would be hurt that I don't have her solely as MOH? And would Kimmy feel left out being a Bridesmaid? She wouldn't be the only bridesmaid of course, but in regards to the 4 of us I guess she is. Then I was thinking what would happen if Danielle gets married before me. Would it be right to have 2 matrons of honor? Because I would still feel obligated to ask Jackie, yet it seems cold leaving Kimmy out! Help!
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Re: Was just asked to be Maid of Honor & she is expecting the favor to be returned, but I always told myself that my other best friend would be my MOH?
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Your question is very lengthy and complicated. Plus, since you're not engaged, the point seems moot. Make that decision if, and when, the time comes. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Was just asked to be Maid of Honor & she is expecting the favor to be returned, but I always told myself that my other best friend would be my MOH?
