Thank you for your help with my son's wedding. My future daughter-in-law asked me to post one more question. She has been invited to be a member of the house party in a wedding. When she tried to find out what being a member of the house party means, the bride told her it was a traditional southern wedding similar to the one Pres. Bush's daughter had. We've looked that up, but could find nothing about the role or duty of a house party member. It appears that the ladies wear special dress, but that's all we could find. Do you have any additional information?
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Nancy Tucker
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This is not something that I have any information on. She will need to speak to the hostess and ask what is expected of her. Nancy Tucker President of Weddings Beautiful US http://www.weddingsbeautiful.com
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The bride should certainly not keep her attendants "in the dark" and provide more information as to 1) the dress and 2)what exactly is expected from member of the "house party". The bride should be gracious enough to be more explicit in explaining all these details to her invited attendants who might be unfamiliar with local or regional customs. Good luck! Irina Feygin, IMpeccable iMage, Inc. Image and Beauty and For Princess Bride
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That must be a very regional specific tradition. I've never heard of it and hope it is in good taste. She may want to ask what it is and what are the expectations of her before she agrees to be involved. Some old traditions just aren't appropriate any more. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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It does seem to be a tradition limited to the South. However, I wasn't able to locate any information on it in any of the many etiquette books I own. Best take the advice of the other experts and ask. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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While the women invited to the house party are not in the bridal party, they are women who are close to the bride. They may be expected (though not always) to assist the bridal party in coordinating events such as the shower and/or bachelorette party. At the wedding, they sometimes wear corsages and are given various tasks to help the flow of the wedding. Sometimes the bride gives these women small token gifts as thank you's. In short, it may just be "an honoring"---or it may come with expectations. You may want to find out. Reverend Susanna Stefanachi Macomb Author of Joining Hands and Hearts, Interfaith, Intercultural Wedding Celebrations, A Practical Guide for Couples
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She finally did ask again, and, at least in this case, the house party will wear matching dresses and be in charge of things like the guest book, ensuring the presents are safe and the like. There will be one member of the bridal party, a maid of honor, and ten house party members (if they all accept, which I doubt). We understand that this is a common practice in old-fashioned southern weddings.
What are the duties of a house party member?
