The problem I'm having is chosing my maid of honor. I have two sisters who are definitely going to be a part of the bridal party, but I could (or would) never chose between the two of them. Other than that I have three girls remaining. Although my relationship with each of the 3 girls is different, our closeness is very similar. That is why I'm having such a difficult time in choosing. I'll try to explain. The oldest of the three is my best friend from highschool. We don't talk too often now, but we still have our past memories and when we do get to talk, it's just like the old times. The only draw back to chosing her is that she knows my past and isn't as familiar with my present as the other two. She isn't good friends with my fiance like the other two girls are either. Ok, the next girl was my roommate for 3 years. We were pretty much like sisters. She definitely knows me well b/c well.. we LIVED together! :P The only draw back to her is that there have been times when her and my fiance have had their not-so-good moments. For awhile she was very jealous of our relationship b/c it took the time that her and I used to spend together away. She also didn't have TOO much luck with guys... so she sometimes felt like the third wheel. The youngest of the three is a girl that I have known just while I was in college. She's a year younger than me and is very much like a little sister to me. She's always been there for me through thick and thin. She has just recently moved away (to a FAR away state) so we don't get to talk that often. We still keep in touch though... and when we talk, it seems as if she's right down the street. The thing that worries me w/her is that we may (alhtough I doubt it) lose touch. Also, my fiance was quick in saying that he'd rather it not be her. Hmm? I also talked with my mom about this and she asked "If I had an emergency right this very second, who out of those three would be the first person I'd call." I answered her, but then thought about it.. and I'd really call any of the three, not just one in particular. My mom's advice was also NOT to pick b/c of someone else's feelings. I don't think my friend from highschool would have her feelings hurt if I didn't chose her. I also don't think (although I could be wrong) that my roomie would mind either. I do, however, think that my younger friend would wonder why I didn't ask her. In all honestly though, I think all three would just be happy to be asked to be a part of something so special to me though. Ahh. What do I do? If you were me... who would YOU chose?? Also, we haven't set an exact date for the wedding, but it will be in July of this coming summer... so, I still have time to think about my choice, right!? HELP!! :P
If I were you, I would not choose any friends since you have two sisters. As you are already experiencing, some friendships don't last a lifetime and you may not keep in touch with ANY of these women. I would choose either one of my sisters OR have them both be maid/matron (depending on their marital status). You can have two in this role.Again, MY OPINION...sinvce you asked! Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Thanks for the advice!! I'm still trying to decide what to do. I would love to have both of my sisters be maid of honor, BUT they are both younger than me... a lot younger than me. I know that my parents are already going to have a lot of stuff to take care of w/o having to worry about throwing my bridal shower and bachlorette pary as well. My sisters are both too young to be able to do it on their own. That's the only thing that would keep me from asking them. Do I still have time to decide who I want? I do think that all three of the friendships will last. I'm not worried about that... I just don't know who I'll be closest too when the wedding comes around. Do I need to hurry and make a decision or can this wait until other things are taken care of first?? Thanks again for helping me out with this!!
Firstly, a family member should never host a bridal shower so your sister's are off the hook there. What are their ages? Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
What a wonderful situation, to have 5 special women in your life who all care so much about you. I do agree with your mom, think about who you would call first. Another way to think about this is; In 50 years who will you still be close with? Even though you ruled out your sisters quickly, I would recommend that you reconsider since many times friends come and go, ususally family is for life. Perhaps there are some older women in your life with whom you can speak. Ask who they chose for their maid of honor and if they are still in touch with them. Do keep in mind that if you cannot choose between your sisters, you can have co-maids of honor.
Search your heart; the answer will come to you. All the best, Jodi R R Smith
Thanks so much for the advice!! I thought again about the "who I would call" thing... and decided that the person I'd call is the one who should be my maid of honor. They deserve it b/c they are so special to me! I talked with another close friend of mine (and older family friend) and she agreed. I also feel that the other two (and my sisters) will be happy to just be a part of the wedding! Thanks again for your advice!
Who do I pick??
