I pretty much know who I want to be my bridesmaids. I have 3 friends and 2 sisters standing up. However I have a teenage niece that stood up in both my sister's weddings and I think her mother (my sister) will be insulted if I don't ask her.
I love my niece dearly but don't want to add more numbers. The only thing I could think of is to give her her mother's spot (no one has been asked yet, so no one knows this yet). I think my sister will be insulted if she is not in the wedding party. I do not think my niece will mind as much since she is very easygoing. To be truthful, I would rather have my niece in it than my sister, but I don't think that would work either.
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Not knowing you, or the personalities involved, it's hard to give advice beyond the standard, "select those closest to you to be a part of your bridal party". Decide if it makes sense, and could provide a sense of harmony in the family, to invite just one more bridesmaid. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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May 14, 2007, 11:29 AM
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Thanks for the reply.
I myself am rather easygoing, I wouldnt mind adding one more bridesmaid, but my fiance has his groomsmen picked out and cannot think of adding one more. And neither of us thinks having an uneven number will look okay.
My sister, on the other hand, is high strung, and she gets upset and offended by the smallest things. There were many things at her wedding that she thought went wrong that no one else thought was that bad (I realize it is always different for the bride). Because her day was so bad in her eyes, i'm afraid that she may try to "ruin" mine (though I am not sure it would be completely conscious, it is just the way she has always been). So I'm not sure what would be worse, having her as a bridesmaid who is there to hear these sly insults from and being upset that her daughter isnt there, or not having her in it, meaning she would be insulted, and God knows what she would do then.
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May 14, 2007, 1:55 PM
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Well, first, the sides don;t have to be even so that shouldn't be a consideration.
If it were me, I would have a talk with my sister and tell her how I feel. If I felt that she was open to my needs I'd ask her. But again, only you know the personalities here. I can only speak to the etiquette. The decision is yours.
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Who to ask to be a bridesmaid?
