I am getting married in one year. I had originally planned to ask my best friend, who lives 3 hours away, to be my maid of honor. The problem is that our lives have taken very different turns. She's a young, unmarried mother of 2 who is always in dramatic on-again-off-again relationships. She's been to jail twice, and even worked as a stripper for while. None of this has changed how I feel about her, other than being frustrated with her choices, but I'm worried that by next year, she could be anywhere. She could be pregnant, back in jail if she violates her terms. It's all very uncertain, and that is what worries me.
My other bridesmaid would be my cousin, who lives about 3 hours away, but is very reliable, and I know she'd make it into town for whatever I needed her for. We aren't tell-all-our-secrets close, but we are still close, and grew up taking vacations together.
My other thought is my future SIL could be the matron of honor, who I absolutely adore, is moving only 1 hour away, and is very responsible, but she's a married mother of three young children who is starting law school. I don't want to burden her with something else.
Any ideas on how to decide?? My best friend will certainly be invited to be a bridesmaid, I'm just worried about making her maid of honor.
Only you can make this decision, but it should be based on who you feel can be there for you. This person should also be close to you. Based on what you have said here, it seems like the obvious choice would be your cousin.
You are so right. Good luck and please remember that you don't have to rush with this decision. You have a bit of time if you won't be married for a year. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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