Hi. I am getting married for the 2nd time and I want a nice, big, beautiful wedding. My daughter is MOH. I want to have 2 of my friends and my sister in law as bridesmaids. I have 2 sisters I want to be involved, but not as Bridesmaids. I spoke of this to my Mother and she said I cannot leave my sisters out of the bridal party, that I have to have them as Bridesmaids or their feelings would be hurt. Am I wrong to not have them as Bridesmaids? How can I tell them that I want them to be involved in another way and what other ways can I have them involved that will make them feel special? Thank you for any advice you can give me.
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Dec 28, 2004, 4:04 PM
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Re: [kris_m2004] Will I hurt their feelings?
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Of course, you should have the wedding party you want, but I have to agree with your mom...you could hurt your sister's feelings, especially since you are including your groom's sister and a few friends. If you don't want to include them but also don't want to risk hurting them, perhpas you could only have your daughter as the MOH, and leave it at that.
If you have already asked these other women and cannot go back on your word then you could ask your sisters to:
1. Greet the guests, both at the church and at the reception.
2. Hand out wedding programs/bubbles/rosepetals...
3. Organize and participate in a family unity candle ceremony.
4. Perform a special reading or poem at the ceremony.
5. Ask them to ofer a special family toast at the reception. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
JVMarie
Jan 9, 2005, 3:47 AM
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Re: [TWQadmin] Will I hurt their feelings?
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I also have a "will I hurt their feelings?" question. Is it wrong or bad luck to not have a wedding party at all?
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Jan 9, 2005, 10:14 AM
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I don't believe in luck; good or bad. It's perfectly fine not to have a wedding party but you wil need 2 witnesses. Speak to your officiate or with your city hall for direction. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
JVMarie
Jan 10, 2005, 1:52 PM
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In your opinion, would it be better to have no bridal party or a minature bride/flower girl and groom/ring bearer only. There will still be about 200 guests (give or take). We have no problem cutting our grown bridal party, but we would like to keep my niece and nephew involved.
Will I hurt their feelings?
