I am a bridesmaid for my best friend and her sister is the MOH. The sister is a teenager, 16 years old. Sister has no clue what her duties are as maid of honor so is it ok for me to step up and plan the shower and bachelorette party? Also, since the sister is not 21 she can't go out with us for the bachelorette party so how do we handle that? My fear is that if her other bridesmaids don't step up everything will be planned by bride's mom and that's not what bride wants. . . help!
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Re: [Cmimi] Young maid of honor duties
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Dear Bridesmaid,
You're right the mother should not be involved.
The duties you are talking about are just options though. The bridal shower and bachelorette parties are not mandatory events. If you want to arrange them you may. But, remember the other bridesmaids are not required to help or pay. This is something all of you have to agree to do. Some may not be able to afford it--time and money.
Perhaps the bachelorette party can be something the sister can participate in. The party can be horseback riding, white water rafting, or watching a bunch of love stories while making fun of the silly dialogue. It doesn't necessarily have to include liquor and male strippers.
If you are planning to participate in an activity that the sister cannot, it would be best to do something special that includes her. The bride could organize a tea to thank her bridesmaids for their participation and this would include her sister.
Young maid of honor duties
