I'm stuck on the quick decisions I made for my wedding party. Here's the thing, I have three sisters - 10, 15, and 23. My 23 yr old sister moved away from the fam when she was 15, we were never close and fought constantly when we were young. She just moved home about 2 wks ago. The thing is, my fiance and I already picked our bridal party. He has 2 bro. and 4 friends he wants in the wedding. I have 3 sisters and 3 friends. I had asked my 15 yr old sister to be my MOH, b/c we are very close and she's a riot, and pretty mature for her age. I asked the 23 yr old to be a bridesmaid as well as the 10 yr old, and I picked three friends to make it 6 people (to match my fiance's 6).
I have loud people in my family now telling me my 23yr old sis (who I don't particularly like) should have been my MOH and my other two sisters are too young! I've already told them they could be bridesmaids and I need 6 people to match the best men.
What are my options here? Should I make the 23 yr old a MOH (and have 2?!) and make the 10 yr old a junior bridesmaid? Would she walk by herself? Do the MOH and best man walk together? Is it wierd if a best man in his twenties walks with my jun. bridesmaid? or should they walk seperately?
Please help!!
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expertplanner
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Jul 25, 2005, 11:19 AM
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Re: [brookelynn] asking one of three sisters to be maid of honor
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Dear Brookelynn:
When selecting wedding party attendants, a couple usually chooses the people closest to them to be honor attendants and family and friends to fill the other rules. It is sweet that you want your 15 year old sister to be your MOH. However, a MOH generally has some duties beyond just standing next to you in the wedding and I don't think she'd be able to perform those. For example, traditionally she'd help with coordinating bridesmaids' activities, helping you with selecting your attire, etc. A junior bridesmaid is a role more acceptable for someone her age.
If you are not close to your 23 year old sister and don't feel she should be your MOH, that's fine. Again, honor roles are filled held by people you are close to. Is there another person you are close to behind your 15 year old sister? The 10 year old should also be a junior bridesmaid. Junior bridesmaids are usually between 9 - 16.
Junior bridesmaids walk by themselves. The MOH may walk alone, or paired with a groomsman during the processional. It depends on your lineup. She does not walk with the Best Man during the processional but she will walk with him in the recessional. The Best Man follows directly behind the groom during the processional. Rhonda Allen, Bridal Consultant New Beginnings Weddings
Etiquette Now
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Jul 25, 2005, 11:57 AM
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Re: [brookelynn] asking one of three sisters to be maid of honor
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Good answer! Also, you don't have to have an equal number of bridesmaids to your groom's groomsmen.
Re: [Et.byRebecca] asking one of three sisters to be maid of honor
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Thanks for the help, I decided to make both the 15 yr old and the 23 year old "Maids" of honor, that way they can share responsibility and I'm not hurting either of their feelings. I saw on this website that it is okay to do this, right?
I also decided to make my youngest sister, 10, a junior bridesmaid.
Thanks again
Etiquette Now
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Jul 25, 2005, 12:53 PM
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Re: [brookelynn] asking one of three sisters to be maid of honor
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It is perfectly fine to have more than one MOH. The 15 year old is a bit young though. But, if your 23 year old is sharing the duties, it should be all right.
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