Due to certain circumstances my bride had to tell a bridesmaid that she was no longer in the bridal party. Should the bride reimburse the bridesmaid for her dress?
Long story...friends/neighbors since they were 5. College...bridesmaid went out of state sort of lost contact. Took up with a young man who lives out of state, who has stolen from her, given her a std ended up pregnant. Asked bride to lie and cover up for her as she had a medical procedure and needed a friend to drive her to clinic. Told bride she was no longer seeing the young man when in fact she has made numerous trips to see him. Bride called her on this in a not so nice voice mail late December, bridesmaid did not like this and has not returned calls when bride tries to get in contact...made all types of excuses not to talk to bride. The straw that finally caused the bride to come unglued was when she tried to contact her friend and the young man who was supposedly out of state answered friends phone. Two strong willed ladies, one trying to meet the other half way, the other saying that her friend is not there for her and when they did talk all she talked about was her upcoming wedding. June 9, 2006.
It sounds as if this friendship is dying because the bridesmaid is lying to the bride and won't break away from a controlling relationship. But, the lady did buy the dress intending to wear it for the bride's wedding. So, it seems to me that the most fair thing to do would be to split the cost of the dress.
It also sounds like this bridesmaid really needs a lot of support to actually break away from this person. ...just a thought.
Thank you for your advice. I will pass it along. The bride did tell her friend that when she comes from this place she is at, she would be there for her. Unfortunately the friend said that she would not come back begging her for her friendship.
To me it sounds as though the bride is the one asking the bridesmaid to step down. So, if the bridesmaid already has the dress she should either return it to the bride for a refund or, if she hasn't picked up the dress yet, the bride should send back her deposit. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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