Please help! I have two friends who are getting married the same day next year. The first bride asked me to stand up in her wedding about five months ago and set the date next year, since this time she has gotten married at the Justice of the Peace but is planning a large church wedding the same day in 2008. The second bride asked me to stand up for her about 2 months ago but had not set a day . The second bride just called to tell me that she has set her date which happens to be the same day as the first bride. I feel like I need to be there for both ladies since we have all been friends since childhood. I love them both but now I have to choose if I am going to stand up for the bride who asked first and will be renewing her vows , be there for the bride who asked me second and it is her first wedding or stand up for neither one and attend the second brides wedding and catch a plane and be at the first brides reception. PLEASE HELP what is the proper thing to do in this situation?
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Re: [karin k] bridesmaid for two brides sameday
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Your friend who had the civil ceremony is already married so she should not be having a wedding. If she is renewing her vows then she does not need any attendants.
However, you still have the issue with who you'll be with on that day. I think this is a personal choice since you're no longer comparing apples to apples. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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I completely agree. This really can't be anyone else's decision but yours.
Please inform your friend about the fact that a vow renewal should never appear to be a wedding. You may save her from embarrassing herself. You could mention this article to her: Vow Renewal Etiquette. Of course it is mentioned in etiquette books as well.
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