I was asked to be in my friends wedding about 7 months ago. I accepted. About a month or two later she said that no children are invited except her families kids who are coming from over a thousand of miles away. One reason among many is that she doesn't like kids much. I have 2 daughters and my family means everything to me. I adore my girls and I should of said something then butI didn't fight it because this is her wedding. I thought this would be a wonderful adult day/night out, that my husband (a guest) and I never get. Just a week ago my husband & the bride got into a personal argument and now he is not invited to her wedding. I love my friend & don't want to mess up her wedding but my family is number one and always will be. I am torn, I feel like if I stay in the wedding (that is in 5 weeks) my husband & my kids will feel not important or supported by there own mother/wife and if I tell the bride that I won't be attending her wedding then I'll lose a good friend.
Please Help Me!
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This is a tough one. But, you are married to your husband and not your friend. So, although you promised to be there for your friend, you have an obligation to your husband to support him as well.
Having said that, this is a personal decision and one that should be made by deep reflection. Talk to your husband about it and get his opinion. Perhaps he may feel that you should support your friend. If not... it is still your decision to make.
If you decide to remove yourself from the bridal party, it is best to have a heart to heart talk with your friend. It is important that she understand how torn you are about this.
I cannot imagine what your husband could have possibly done for this "friend" to ask him not to attend her wedding. What sort of friend does this? I agree with Rebecca that this situation needs some reflecting. But, we probably don't have as much information as we should have to really give good, sound advice. Speak to some close friends or family members and ask their advice since they would know more about the players in this drama than we do here. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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bridesmaid wants out
