My boyfriend and I are about to get engaged. The problem, figuring out the wedding party, we want to have the answers before our group of friends/ families start asking. I adore his sister and would love to have her in the wedding (plus it would mean the world to his family) and he is planning to ask my brother. Problem is neither of us want MY sister in the wedding. She needs to be the center of attention at all times,and to do so she has resorted to drastic measures in the past (feigning a suicide attempt, threatening to leave and never come back, and every way you can imagine to make a scene). We're terrified as to what she will do when we get engaged officially let alone at the wedding. We realize that we have to invite her, but how do we go about excluding her from the bridal party without offending my parents and her. Is there a suitable other role? (The grooms family is religious, the brides is not so a reader is probably out.) Help!!
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Re: do I have to put my crazy sister in my wedding?
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Dear Lola,
The easiest way to go about this would be to exclude all family members from being attendants. If you include your fiance's sister it very well could be an insult to your sister. Plus, it would be obvious that she was excluded while the others were chosen.
Other than that, I feel your only option would be to be completely honest about why you are excluding her. Of course, this also means that you would be explaining this to your guests as they ask why she was excluded and the other siblings were not.
It is also better to wait some time after announcing your engagement to choose attendants. Many times we choose too early and our plans change.
do I have to put my crazy sister in my wedding?
