Two years ago December, I was asked to be in my friends wedding this upcoming August. When I was asked, I was asked as a regular bridesmaid (which was fine by me!). I am a very crafty person, and lately I have been doing a lot to help the bride get ready for her showers and wedding. The MOH has done nothing. The bride realized this on her own (because I was still fine with doing extra work without the extra title). A month ago, she asked me to be co-maid of honor. I accepted, because I didnt know what else to say. She refuses to tell the real MOH who is a relative that she has added me to this title. I feel very uncomfortable with this. I even signed myself as bridesmaid on the shower invitations, because I didnt feel that was the way for the real MOH to find out. I have asked the bride several times when she plans to tell the MOH, but it appears that she doesn't. Is it rude of me to continue calling myself a regular bridesmaid (for instance when I put the titles on the place cards for the shower).
Please help....
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Etiquette Now
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Mar 23, 2006, 7:53 PM
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Re: [MOH2] last minute switch to MOH
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Dear Last Minute,
It is very nice of you to be so considerate of the MOH's feelings. But, you may use any title you wish. If the bride has given you this title, you may use it.
Re: [MOH2] last minute switch to MOH
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How does it go...A rose by any other name will still smell as sweet? It's obvious your bride has some aversion to telling this family member so be the bigger person and just refrain from calling yourself anything, if possible. Let the bride "name" you from here on out.
The titles really don't mean as much as what you mean to each other. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
last minute switch to MOH
