My sister is getting married in october! I am so happy for her! But i am disappointed that she didn't ask me to be a bridesmaid. You see, she's asked our other sister and a friend of hers, but I have been completely left out. I know that this day is about her and her fiancee's commitment to each other and to God, but I can't help thinking (only to myself) if it's okay to feel hurt by not being asked to be involved in the most important day of her life!? Anyways, I don't want to upset her and tell her what I'm thinking, so does anyone have any ideas? Am I being unreasonable or selfish? I really want some unbias and honest answers here. Thanks so much for your time in responding to this post!
Of course it is normal to feel upset, it is a human response. And, you are not acting on your feelings, so you are displaying that you are a very reasonable and considerate person--thank you.
Your sister might not know how much you would like to play a part in her happy day. Perhaps you could tell her that you would like to help her. And, ask her what you could do for her.
Other than that... Maybe some others have ideas too.
Could you speak to your other sister about your feelings? Maybe she could relay a subtle message to the bride.
I agree with Rebecca. Don't hold back on offering your help. Possibly your sister will realize how excluded you must feel. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
For a woman to ask one sister and not another to be in a wedding party is just cruel and selfish. I would strongly advise that you speak with your mother to see if she has any insight as to what would possess your sister to make such a decision. Yes, it is your sister's day, but unless you have done something horrific to her in the recent past, there is no reason for her to be so mean. While playing the piano is an honor, rarely are the piano players including in the wedding pictures. After speaking with your mom, you may want to have one conversation with your sister to ask if you have done anything to offend her. If your sister does not change her mind, then drop the issue. As hurtful as it may be, I am sure it is a decision she will regret later in life. Be gracious and kind; play the piano and have fun at the wedding.
Good luck, Jodi R R Smith
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not bridesmaid...?
