pay for shower when not allowed to help plan and not listed on invitations
The matron of honor and one of the bridesmaids put together invitations (their names are the only two names listed on the invitations). These two decided when and where they would have this shower and what would be served, what time, etc. Now the bridesmaid is requesting that the unincluded bridesmaids share in the cost. And, after attending the shower, I'm quite certain that the price she is requesting from these others is too high for what was there. I can only assume she is charging them for her time. I am absolutely appalled and do believe this is WRONG. Please help me with what is the proper etiquette.
Etiquette Now
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Jul 11, 2006, 7:01 PM
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Re: [tina] pay for shower when not allowed to help plan and not listed on invitations
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Dear Tina,
I am appalled as well. But, I hear of it often. I don't know where these young ladies hear that this is proper, but it is not. The attendants are not obligated to contribute or host a shower. If they wish to, they must agree to the cost and be involved with all of the planning.
If it were me, I would return the bill with a copy of a respected etiquette book. ...well, probably not. But, I would think about it :)
pay for shower when not allowed to help plan and not listed on invitations
