Last year I said yes to a friend to be her maid of honor, knowing that I would have to pay for a lot of things. She did say at that time she planned on getting cheap bridesmaid dresses or even paying for them her self or at least half. Now she is picking dresses that cost around $200 and hasn't offered any help even when I asked her if she could keep it around $100. I know that there are dresses out there that are around that price since I am getting married next Sept. I don't know what to do about how much she wants us to spend on a dress we will all wear once in our life and wonder what the heck to do with it after that. I'm poor enough already and spending that much on a dress and then having to give her a party and gifts just doesn't seem fair. I found a wonderful dress that both of my bridesmaids love for $80. Should I tell her that I can't do it and say goodbye or should I tell her for the third time that it needs to be cheaper? I'm a mess! HELP me PLEASE!
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Find out the name of the designer and try looking online for the same dress. I'll bet you could find it at an online bridal shop or at ebay even. Maybe you'll find something really similar and you can go to your bride and make the suggestion. Frankly, I don't think $200 is an overly expensive dress though. If you cannot find a replacement then I'm afraid there isn't really anything more you can do. You did say you accepted the role, knowing the costs involved. You might look to save money elsewhere by perhaps making a gift for the bridal shower. Finally, the dress could be sold afterward at ebay, save the dress if you happen to go on a cruise or you could have it altered to wear for other dressy ocassions.
In any event, unless you want to end your relationship with this friend, I would not back out over a few dollars. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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