I am a recently dismissed bridesmaid. The decision came about from the bride because I recently got into an argument with someone in her family. For which I recognized and apologized immediately.
The bride told me via email that my behavior was rude and condesending and she felt that I would ruin her special day. She not only asked me to step down, but also not to attend the wedding.
My question is ...I have already spent $300 on a dress (which has not been altered yet) $100 on shoes, $200 on airfare to go to her wedding shower , plus $100 for a gift. My boyfriend and I have both spent a total of $600 in airfare so we can be at this wedding for her on her special day. Non refundable , of course.
This was a "friend" of 10 years who had made a harsh decision.
I apologized multiple times to her for the arguement and have offered to apologize to the person who the arguement was with.
This was not good enough.
Question....am I entitled to any reimbursement for wedding attire and airfare for which I've prepaid...and because of a rash stupid decision, I am out over $1,000.00?
Etiquette Now
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Mar 10, 2005, 10:48 AM
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Re: [dismissed] the dismissed bridesmaid
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Dear Dismissed,
Sorry, but no. Hopefully you can sell everything and change the tickets for someplace you wish to visit. Bridesmaids often get suck with the bill. It is unfortunate.
Re: [dismissed] the dismissed bridesmaid
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I'm sorry, but since bridesmaids are responsible for purchasing the bridesmaids dresses and accessories, you are not entitled to be reimbursed. You will have to take responsibility for your action which caused this falling out, even if you feel you have apologized apropriately.
Maybe giving your friend some space will allow her to reconsider, even if it's just reconsidering inviting you as a guest to the wedding. Hopefully, you will be able to mend the friendship. It's really hard to say simnce we don't have the details of what happened.
Best of luck... Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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