My wedding is 6 months away. I have 3 bridesmaids. In between asking them, and now, one of them got into trouble with drug use and went into rehab and now is out and "supposedly" better. I do not know if she is still using drugs, but suspect she may be by the way she acts, and things she says and the constant lying. And if she really isn't, there is always the chance she could relapse before the wedding! We are in the process of getting the bridesmaids dresses. She has been a childhood friend and I don't know if I can tell her she can not be in my wedding, but at the same time, if she still has the problem I don't want my family AND my fiances' family to see her in such a condition in my wedding party at my wedding. Please help! What do I do?
There are always consequences for our actions. It is unfortunate that your friend decided to take drugs. But, it was a decision--hers. It was a positive step to get help. But, it does sound as if she still has a problem if she is lying. This is a telling sign.
Plus, when someone has a substance abuse problem, loved ones can have trust issues with them, as you are illustrating. So, if it were me, I'd have a heart to heart and tell her my feelings. Perhaps you will decide to keep her. But, you have every reason not to if you feel she may be a problem for your guests and family. As a good host we should always consider our guest's comfort and safety.
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