My daughter is going to be married in three weeks. She has a matron of honor as well as a maid of honor...mainly because she grew up with both girls and one is married now. The maid of honor has been wonderful and a true friend in every sense of the word; helping with planning details, preparations for wedding portrait, flowers, fabric shopping and is even giving a personal shower.
Matron of honor has done nothing but complain about the time required (the wedding day is also her child's birthday), she asked the groom a few personal questions (so she could better choose what he'd prefer his bride to wear on the honeymoon!) and now the latest...her mother mentioned in passing that she just had her hair dyed three different colors, none of which blend with the others (e.g. the ends are coal black)! My daughter made it clear that while they don't have to be carbon copies she'd prefer that hair-dos be similar (all up or all down...their preference). It just seems that this young woman is determined to draw as much attention to herself as possible!
As I stated before, my daughter did not ask her to be matron of honor because of the honor position but because she didn't know what else to call a married female attendant. She didn't want to leave her out of her wedding party out of respect for their past friendship but it would appear that this is not her same high school best friend. What to do?
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Nancy Tucker
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Dear Llaura,
Since you are so close to the wedding, your daughter should speak with the Matron of Honor and express her desire for normal hair styles for all of the bridal party. If her Matron of Honor is not willing to redye the hair prior to the wedding, you have the option of hoping that her hair has toned down by then or ask her to step out.
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Not that this will help you now, but for those who may be in the planning stages now, married or unmarried attendants can be termed "bridesmaids". Your daughter did not have to assign this friend the role of Matron of Honor simply because she was married.
In any event, bridesmaid or matron of honor, it appears that your daughter would still have had these same issues with this friend. I agree with Nancy -- friends' true colors always seem to come through when asked to be a part of a bridal party.
Ask your daughter to keep everything in perspective and remind her that she is marrying the person she loves and her friend's hair color won't overshadow the main reason for the day, unless she allows it to... Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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