My wedding is in 79 days and my sister is my maid of honor. I have made lists of shower & bachelorette guests, lists possible places for these events and have set all the dates. She has done nothing! Tomorrow is July 1 and the bachelorette and 1rst shower are less than a month away and she has done a thing to help plan! She has not even gotten a dress yet. If I try to talk to her about the wedding or things coming up that I would like her to help me with, she gets angry. She is only 21 years old and not very happy with her love life. How can I deal with this?? Isn't a maid of honor and sister supposed to be supportive at such an important time?? I am desperately trying not to become a bridezilla, and is is not mandatory that the bride gets a shower or a bachelorette and I certainly can not host a shower for myself. Everyday gets closer to the wedding and she is really stressing me out! How can I deal with this girl?
Etiquette Now
WEDDING ETIQUETTE EXPERT
Jun 30, 2006, 12:56 PM
Post #2 of 2
(593 views)
Re: [brideSD] unsupportive maid of honor
[In reply to]
Dear Bride,
Well, you are correct that it is not mandatory for anyone to host for you any prewedding party including attendants. You may suggest a guest list and locations, but you may not expect or demand any of this. Others have to pay for this, so it is their choice to host one. Perhaps she feels as if you are a bit too hands on and directive. Of course you will never know unless you ask. Perhaps a parental figure could intervene. The dress issue is important. The parties are not.
unsupportive maid of honor
