I would really like my daughter, who is only 6 (will almost be 7 by wedding time), to be my junior bridesmaid or something VERY important in the wedding. She follows direction pretty well and is so-so on sitting still. My friends tell me she is too little to be an important part of my wedding and will mess something up. So what should I do?
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Re: [lilmom101599] 6 year old as jr. bridesmaid?
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Given the age of your daughter she would be best suited to be flower girl. She's a bit young for the jr. bridesmaid role.
Have her practice her part lots of times befre the wedding. Little girls love to play dress up so have her set up her dolls as the guests, get her a play bouquet and let her practice walking down the aisle, tossing petals, sitting politely and showing off her best manners.
Reading books about being a flowergirl can be another fun activity the two of you can enjoy together.
However, if you have your heart set on the PERFECT wedding you may be setting yourself up for disappointment. Even without children in the wedding party, perfection is difficult to achieve.
If it were my daughter, and my wedding, I would allow her the opportunity to be a part of this special day and whatever happens -- happens. Relax and enjoy it -- she may even do something really adorable that you'll catch on video to savor in the future. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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yvonne"instep"
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Nov 10, 2005, 11:55 AM
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I think because you have your heart set on including her in a special way any role you pick for her will be fine. If other people have concerns, just reassure them that you don't and whatever happens will be fine. Spending time with her to explain or practice what she will be doing will also make her feel special because she will know how important her role is, and it will also increase the likelihood of things going as planned. And if something does go awry, it certainly won't be the end of the world for you. More than likely though, things will be fine and what precious memories you will be creating for both of you. Have fun with it!! Yvonne Kelly, MSW, RSW, Certified Stepfamily Counsellor and Coach, Co-Founder and Director of the Step and Blended Family Institute http://www.stepinstitute.ca
6 year old as jr. bridesmaid?
