Mybrother has asked me to be a bridesmaid. I am presently expecting my fourth child who will be about three and a half months of age at the time of the wedding. I will be breastfeeding. My brother has just informed me that he has decided on a "no children" wedding and asked me not to bring my older three. I am relieved to hear this as I was hoping he wouldnt want them involved. The wedding is to take place in the state of Pennsylvania, about 8 hours drive from our home in Canada, and it would be easier and less expensive for us to travel without the older ones anyway. However, as I will be nursing the infant he will have to come with me. My brother has offered to arrange to have someone stay in the hotel with the baby for the time I am at the wedding. However, I simply cannot, and will not. leave my infant in a hotel in a strange country, with a stranger, while we attend the wedding. He has accused me of being selfish, not wanting to be inconvenienced for a few hours, and not understanding his wishes to have the children excluded. I argue that as a breastfeeding mother of an infant (who won't even be crawling!!), my infant does not count as a child, and I should not be expected to leave him in a hotel with strangers for the day, regardless of how close the hotel may or may not be from the location!( esp. since my boyfriend will be there to attend to the baby while I am occupied during the ceremony and pics..) What is the opinion of the experts on this matter?
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Nancy Tucker
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Feb 14, 2007, 1:10 PM
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I think you should do as your brother is asking or opt out all together. Surely, you could find someone that you would be comfortable with for around 4 hours. Enjoy your brothers wedding and then get back to baby. Nancy Tucker President of Weddings Beautiful US http://www.weddingsbeautiful.com
medaevalmom
Feb 14, 2007, 2:22 PM
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Perhaps I was unclear... who would i leave the baby with? I won't know anyone in the state, other than those in attendance to the wedding. I don't know the bride's family..in fact, barely know the bride.. seriously, would you leave your infant with someone you don't know, for any length of time??? Esp.in a strange city, in a strange country?? It's not even like they are offering for someone to watch him onsite, nearby, where I could just pop in and out and check on him! I am actually quite suprised that you would suggest leaving my child with someone I don't know, and that I should " go enjoy the wedding.
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Your brother has every right to have a child free wedding. This includes babies who could potentially be disruptive due to crying. If you want to attend the wedding, see if there is someone you could bring along, express your milk if need be, or travel back and forth between locations. No one is suggesting you leave your child with a stranger. I wouldn't do that myself. But, if this is to be a child free wedding then you either need to find someone you can trust to bring along to babysit or opt out. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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