My fiance and I have known each other for almost two years but have only been dating for 10 months. We are engaged and scheduled to wed in 2 months. I have only known his extended family for about 6 months. He has three little girl cousins, 11, 4, and 2. When I mentioned to his mother that we were not using the younger two as flowergirls she flew off the handle. I am using two girls that are 6 and 7 because I have been to too many weddings where the young flowergirls made a scene, and his two cousins are not well behaved. Also I have babysat these two girls since they were two weeks old, our families are very close, I love the girls to death, they are well behaved, and I was in one of them's mother's weddings when I was younger. MY fiance thinks that if we use any of his cousins we should use the 11 year old because her feelings would be hurt. He and his mother want her to be the ring bearer and carry the pillow with our ring's and stand on the groom's side since I obviously don't want her on my side (not true). I just would rather her hand out programs or bubbles and they don't think this is good enough. I think she is too old and mature to be a flower girl or ring bearer....what should I do?
Nancy Tucker
PRESIDENT - WEDDINGS BEAUTIFUL
Jan 5, 2005, 7:47 AM
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Re: [nagem225] Do I have to use my fiance's cousins?
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No you don't have to use his cousins. You need to have an open conversation with your fiance and his mother explaining to them the reasons you've explained here. I know you hear it all the time, "It's your day" however when getting your way creates a conflict in the family, it's not always worth it. Try to negotiate your way and if it doesn't work out, decide on how important it really is. Nancy Tucker President of Weddings Beautiful US http://www.weddingsbeautiful.com
Do I have to use my fiance's cousins?
