My dearest friend is getting married in May 2005, I was just informed that my baby (his Goddaughter) was not invited to the wedding. She will be 8 months old at the time. Me, my husband and my 3 year old daughter are in the wedding party! I don't understand how I could be informed of this last minute and I feel this should have been made clear when we were asked to be in the party. I have never had a babysitter for either of my children something that they know-- I am both upset and outraged by this last minute insult.
Etiquette Now
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Mar 2, 2005, 10:35 AM
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Dear God daughter,
Please try not to take this personally. Many couples would rather not have babies at their weddings for obvious reasons. I'm not sure how you would care for your baby while you are in the bridal party also. Perhaps this was also a concern.
Many times we parents feel as if everyone should want to be around our children because they are so special. I know mine are. But, this doesn't mean that other people feel the same. It helps if we step outside ourselves and consider the view points of other people just a little.
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Perhaps you could bring along a close friend or family member who can care for your baby nearby. Then you could check in with her in between the ceremony and reception, if time allows. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
nicolemarie22
Mar 2, 2005, 12:01 PM
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My entire family will be at the wedding, the bride just doesn't want the baby to interfer with her day I just wish I knew this prior to agreeing to be in the wedding and spending the money I think we are all going to stay home-- I am heartbroken but it is her day. The groom informed me that it was not his wishes but his Bride-to-be and he is in the middle so I am removing myself from the situation.
coach4couples
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Mar 2, 2005, 3:01 PM
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Is there any possibility of having a conversation with the bride to be, to find out what her concerns are, and what her fears are, and exploring possible ways to make this situation work for everyone involved?
Your reaction is certainly understandable, and if your friendship to this man means what you seem to indicate it does, having a good relationship with his future wife is important -- that is if you want the friendship to continue.
Worth a try. Emily Bouchard, MSSW, Life Coach, Speaker, and Trainer
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