My fiance and I are having a small wedding of only about 60 people. He and I are the only people in the wedding party at this time. We don't believe we can really afford to have anyone else in it such as bridesmaids, matron of honor, etc. We would, however, like to include our boys somehow. We have 4 boys; ages 3, 6, 8, and 10. Is there anyway they could be included in our wedding party? I thought about having my 3 year old be the ring bearer and my 8 year old carry my train. Could my 6 year old also be a ring bearer? If so, do I need two pillows? Or should I have my 3 year old carry a stuffed animal instead of a pillow? What else could my 6 year old do? My fiance would like his 10 year old to me his best man, which I definitely think is great, but is that ok? If he does, does that mean I need a made of honor or bridesmaid? I do not know too much about weddings as you can see. I could really use your help. Thank you so much!
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Your 10 year old can be your husband's best man, your 8 year old may be your best person of honor. Many people are now switching genders with regard to their best people of honor. Your 6 year old can be the ring bearer. The three year old may be a bell ringer. He can hold a small a hand bell,announcing the approach of the bride. At three, he'll love that.
More options still, all four boys may process in front of you--two by two. This is quite elegant.
Your 10 year old, if not too shy, can do a simple reading. At one point, they can each place a hand upon your joined hands and join the celebrant in blessing your marriage.
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Dear PhilliJ1,
Very recently it was viewed negatively to wear a train for an encore wedding. Rules are relaxing these days, but it is good to know how some may view it, if this is an encore wedding.
With so few guests I am assuming your wedding is informal. The train threw me a bit, since it is usually worn for a more formal wedding. But, if yours is informal, your wedding may be more unique. You don't really have to follow stiff, formal rules and you can create roles for your sons.
I would caution you in using your 3 year old as ring bearer if he is to walk alone. They tend to become frightened and jump under the nearest skirt, which is usually yours. You may end up dragging him down the aisle with him clutched onto your ankle. So, perhaps your 6 year old could walk with him. They could hold the pillow together.
Your 8 year old could be your Honor Attendant even though he is a bit young--informal weddings allow for more creativity. And, the 10 year old may stand with his father. They would be dressed the same, except that the 8 year old could wear a different colored tie.
All of this is fine in the etiquette world as long as the wedding is informal.
Including 4 boys in wedding ceremony
So, perhaps your 6 year old could walk with him. They could hold the pillow together. 