Including mentally handicaped sister in the wedding party.
I don't know what role to have my sister play in my wedding. She's 23 yrs. old,but mentally 3. I don't want to offend my mother(whom I don't get along with already). I won't have the time to keep watch over her on my special day. She needs special care. What could I have her do? Thanks. Please Advise.
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expertplanner
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Jan 4, 2006, 8:32 AM
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This will have to be handled very tenderly because of your situation. Let me qualify my recommendation by saying it is given in the absence of knowing your sister's limitations and how amenable someone will be to watching over her.
One recommendation is to have her listed as an 'Honor Attendant' on your program but allow her to sit close to someone who knows her and can care for her during the wedding ceremony and reception. This will still give her a role in your wedding but will also be considerate of her special needs.
Cheers! Rhonda Allen, Bridal Consultant New Beginnings Weddings
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Do you think she is capable of handing out wedding programs or bubbles? This is a job typically given to the children, although usualy children over the age of three. Maybe if there is someone there helping her it could work.
Rhonda's idea is a nice compromise. Your sister will be dressed and considered a part of the bridal party, which should pacify your mother, but she will not really have to do anything except stand nearby. Plus, she wil be in the wedding photos. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Jan 4, 2006, 10:44 AM
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Agreed.
But, you really don't have to have your sister stand in a major role. She could sit with someone and hand out programs. This would still give her a role and it would be less likely that she would become overly excited by a large group of people. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
Including mentally handicaped sister in the wedding party.
