Is it rude to ask mother of flower girl to pay for dress
My close friend was supposed to be a bridesmaid at my wedding informed me this morning that she, her husband and daughter will be moving away before my wedding and have no plans to come back for it. Since her daughter was to be my flower girl, this complicates things more especially since we already purchased her dress. My friend was between jobs when we bought it, so I offered to pay for her daughter's dress as her gift. The dress is not returnable, so now I am stuck with a dress for a member of my bridal party who won't be at my wedding. Is it rude to ask my friend to pay me back for the dress?
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You offered to pay for the dress, and did pay for it, so it would not be right to ask your friend to now pay. It really makes no difference whether or not anyone will be using the dress since you already intended to buy it. If there are no other little girls to fill the role, perhaps you could sell it on Ebay or to a local consignment shop.
Please try not to be angry with your friend since she probably has to do whatever it takes to make ends meet. She has an obligation to her daughter to support her, which outweighs her obligation to her role in your wedding. It's a shame she cannot attend and it's also a shame that you wonlt have your friend with you on such an important day. But, I'm sure your wedding will be wonderful since, after all, I assume you're marrying the man of your dreams. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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That is great advice! Very well said and I couldn't agree more.
It is very disheartening to see more and more people hurt by our economic difficulties. I think we all need to try to help those around us even more than before. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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