My 11 year old daughter has been asked to be a Jr. Bridesmaid in a family members wedding next summer. I was informed by the bride to be (my family member) that she expects the Jr. Bridesmaids (there are two of them, same age) to contribute financially to the cost of the bridal shower. Is this common practice?
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Aug 4, 2005, 8:27 AM
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The bride should have nothing to do with the planning of her bridal shower including who will be hosting and paying for it.
The bridal shower is an optional event and, if someone other than a family member, offers to host the shower they are responsible for paying. The host can ask the bridal party to chip in on the cost but they are not obligated to do so.
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Aug 5, 2005, 8:10 AM
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Thank you for your reply. The mother of the bride is "helping" the bridal party plan the shower, with input from the bride to be. Other than email a link to this forum, how else can I go about letting them know that an 11 year junior bridesmaid should not be held financially responsible for part of the shower. I believe there are 4 bridesmaids along with the 2 junior bridesmaids. I have a feeling that if I bring this up again that it will create friction in our family. Should I just not say anything and give the money?
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You could possibly say (very calmly and politely, of course!) that before accepting this role as jr. bridesmaid for your daughter, you researched the responsibilities of this role and found that the only financial responsibility for the jr. bridesmaid is (as per Emily Post's newest book, published in 2005) to purchase the bridesmaid's dress and accessories. Although your daughter would be more than willing to help out by addressing invitations or with any other time consuming task, she is not able to make any further financial contribution.
Or, you could acquiesce and agree to contributing a certain dollar amount, whatever amount you're comfortable with, to ensure that there is no friction.
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