I have a 4 year old nephew who is my parents first grandchild, so they adore him. When I began planning my wedding, my dad said "Little John will be the ring bearer, right?". I said "sure".
My fiance and I are not fond of children and will not be having children of our own. We have even hired a sitter for the reception to keep the guests children contained.
I really don't want any children in the wedding party, and never even asked the child's mother (my sister) for his participation. I was put on the spot and responded with a noncommital answer. Would it be rude to go back on my first answer ("sure") and not have my nephew in the party?
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I'm not sure if your answer was truly "non-committal" but, if you haven't formally asked your sister and she hasn't told the child you should be ok. First, go back to your parents and let them know that you jumped the gun and answered before discussing with your fiance. I'm sure you can come up with a very loving way to let them know how you feel. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
I completely agree. It really should be a decision for the both of you anyway. So, it should be easy to explain that you should have discussed it with your fiance first. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
No kids!
